Improving Your Love Life
Book sales in the genre of self-help indicate that people are reading and writing about ways to improve their lives. God has empowered us by our free will to choose the abundant life Jesus the Christ came to this earth to provide. We can improve our lives by following His commands. Those commands allow us to walk in His designed purpose for each of us. Our purpose is to have a love life or love walk that is based on the great commandment as describe in Matthew 22:38-40.
Our capacity for love is a choice. God has empowered us all to choose to love our neighbor as our self. He has provided instruction on ways to walk in love. His word the Bible, and an intimate relationship with Him carry profound significance toward purpose. In addition, to those characters and stories found in the Bible He has provided all of us with current stories that surround us every day of those improving their love life through self-help.
One such story is that of Mary Johnson. Her only son, a teenager was murdered by another youth named Oshea Isreal, in a seemingly unprovoked act of violence. As one would expect Mary Johnson was devastated by the loss of her son. Overtime she came to know and love her son’s convicted assailant like her own son. She founded From Death to Life to help others overcome trauma through self-help.
Improving Your Love Life Through Self-Help
There are numerous organizations and individuals carrying out the same type of mission by pressing beyond pain, differences and adversity through love. A commonality between these entities is that they make a deliberate choice to love others unconditionally. This decision allows the victims and the perpetrators to experience more love. The capacity to give and receive love is increased on purpose.
The ability to recognize that others have overcome trauma with love is an indicator of the increased capacity to love. In fact, it seems the capacity becomes so abundant it stimulates others to do the same.
All of your relationships, beginning with the one you have with yourself have something to do with love. You may easily get that intellectually. On a more feeling level, are you aware that the way you treat others has everything to do with you? Are you aware that how you treat others is all about you?
If there are relationships that you are aware are causing you stress on a regular basis, perhaps there is something that is broken. Are you doing the same thing over and over and wondering why you are not getting a different result in your relationships?
Your Love Life
Has anything come to mind for you regarding the topic of love? Do you want to improve your love life? In which relationship do you see the capacity for love can be increased?
Look around at the relationships you have with others. Include family and friends, but do not stop there. Quite simply a relationship is how you are connected to someone else. When one goes to the market to purchase an item there is a relationship with the cashier at the register. Although it is brief there is a connection, or relationship with that cashier. When one enters an occupied elevator there is a relationship with the other occupants.
All of these complex and simple relationships or connections have you as a common denominator. How do you handle yourself in those varied situations? Think about it.
If you are generally having the same kinds of interactions (positive or negative) that becomes part of your life. How we relate to others, including ourselves is our love life.
So, is there room for improvement in your relationships? Is there a lackluster quality to how you see your love life? How would you rate your love life (the way you relate to others you are in relationship with)? Perhaps your rating would be neither really spectacular nor particularly horrible, maybe it would be like drinking a cup of lukewarm tea. The word warns about the consequences of being lukewarm.
We are told to love our neighbor as our self in many places in the Bible. We are told that God is love.
Love is a verb, an action word. We often think of the color red as passion and a symbol for the passionate emotion of love.
What are you willing to do to improve your love life? What are you willing to do to create better relationships with yourself and others?
Self-Help
A very viable option to improve your love life is self-help. According to Google self-help is a way to use your own efforts and resources to achieve things without relying on others. There are some things to keep in mind as you are on your self-help reading journey. Follow this link for some tips.
I thank you for being a regular reader of this blog, a subscriber, or even one stopping by for the first time, in either case I believe that you are seeking to improve your quality of life. I consider this site a tool geared to equip you to improving your love life through self-help. This site is focused on providing you with what you need from day-to-day to love your neighbor as yourself.
I have also written a book entitled “What do they think we are Peanuts or something? An interactive guide to fulfilling your purpose in love on purpose.” The book explores love, and shows you how I went from a self-loathing child, to one that seeks to esteem others and myself as God would have me to do.
My story is one of overcoming trauma through love. While your life may, or may not have had the same issues that I have dealt with, there are some issues within you, and your experience that can easily allow you to have less capacity for love.
I have gone through the trauma and come to increased capacity for love. I offer my journey and the steps I took from the darkness and chaos when God provided me with maps and lanterns to see His path, increasing my capacity for love. My journey has not ended yet, as we are all here on an odyssey, designed to move toward perfected love. However, I am far enough along to provide self-help tools for others.
The book increases your capacity to love as we together examine love and your deliberate focus on improving your love life through self-help. It is written in a style that allows you to take inventory and take action as you improve your capacity. It is like having me coach you along the way. It is less expensive that hiring your own life coach while allowing you to have benefit of my decades of experience and successful case studies on the issue.
We review how your perspective on love aligns with God’s. You get to evaluate where and what you will make adjustments to ensure you are improving your love life through self-help.
Book Launch
On April 24, 2015 my book was launched! I had the pleasure of joining Mother Love (TV personality, author, talk show host) on her radio show at LATalkRadio.com. To listen to our discussion about the book, click here. Mother Love and I have shared conversations on air numerous times click here for a prior interview (I am featured in the second hour of the show). Mother Love is an innovative, conversationalist with a heart for helping others. I always enjoy talking with her. Tune in Monday through Friday for live shows or visit show archives to hear replays.
My book will assist you on your self-help journey to improving your love life and is available exclusively on my website. Order your copy of this life-changing self-help tool today, you will see your love life improve!
Is it time to improve your love life? What will you do to help yourself? The most important things we hear are what we tell ourselves. It is your choice to love or not love. How is your love life?
Take Inventory and Take Action!
Love,
Deborah
“Lighting the path to loving your neighbor as yourself.”